By Carolyn Goldfarb
Do you ever wonder what if life was simple and easy? What would it be like if everything just came to us without effort or thought? I think about this often. I do know if it was all that easy, it wouldn’t mean as much. Joy wouldn’t seem as happy, and sadness wouldn’t feel so real. Wins wouldn’t feel like such an accomplishment! Life would have no texture. It would be boring. We learn, unfortunately, through experience and effort. I do think sometimes, “What if my life had not been filled with challenges and some very difficult times?” “Why does everything sometimes seem so difficult and why does it take so long to create what I want?” Then, I feel guilty because I know this is a Western World mentality, and I really have not experienced the true hardships that war or famine bring. I am extremely lucky in that regard and my problems don’t compare. However, putting the rest of the world aside, my life has had its challenges, which I have faced head-on, but I can’t say I haven’t dabbled in the “poor me” mentality or felt as if I couldn’t go on. I did go on and continue to. I know a few people who always seem to make everything look effortless and easy, and I know that for those people every day is not simple or easy. It just looks that way from the outside. They are better at not focusing on the harder times and don’t waste energy discussing it with others, so their seemingly easy life is an illusion to us on the outside. It is better not to compare yourself to others and to keep the focus on yourself and what would make you happy. What would create joy and ease in your life? I know for me, the more I think about what I need to do, plan it, and then do nothing at all, that is when I get stressed, then paralyzed, and accomplish a big zero. However, the less I think about what I need to do after deciding my course of action, and the more I take action, the more I get done. I know that life seems to get a little easier once I get going. The effort is in getting the ball rolling. After that you get caught up in the momentum and the flow, and it’s all good from there!
I had this great experience recently, all because I decided to get up and out of bed on a particular Saturday morning, a real challenge, and forced myself to go to my favorite exercise class with a really awesome, motivating instructor. This day I was rewarded with the chance to talk to her in depth after class, and I learned so much about her life as a personal trainer and what she has experienced as women’s pain points. She even offered to pass my business card to potential clients, which was such a gift. As we talked, the one thing we both noticed is that people are lacking in self-love. Women, especially, are extremely critical of themselves and spread themselves so thin trying their best to be some imagined perfect that the media has created. They want everything and can’t seem to get it. They are disappointed and let down. They are anxious and depressed. Where is the self-love? The self-talk is so depreciating. I wish I could tell everyone I meet, “Love yourself, put yourself first, do what makes you happy.” Create plans and act a step at a time toward manifesting those plans. Appreciate that you made it this far in life. Give yourself a big hug. I know, personally, that negative self-talk leads to depression, fear, and exhaustion. Self-love builds you up, keeps you going. Knowing that I’m creating the future I desire by enjoying the process of getting there, including great conversations with new friends, is what makes life exciting. It is what actually gets me up each morning with a smile on my face. I also wake up with a knowing in my heart that I will create what I desire. I’m on the right road to making my dreams come true a step at a time. What about you?
Carolyn Goldfarb is a Licensed Soul Therapist®, and has been certified from Soul Therapy School International, Toronto Canada. In addition, to assisting individuals utilizing Soul Therapy, Carolyn is a Past Life Regressionist and has been certified by The International Association of Professional Past Life Regression Therapy & Training Institute in Toronto, Canada. Carolyn’s mission is to assist individuals in their realignment with their soul, life purpose, divine essence and true magnificence. Contact: www.carolyngoldfarb.com